🌿15. 모임, 회식, 세례식, 결혼식 초대에 적극 참여하라.
그렇다고 초대를 못 받는다고 회내지 말라.
중요한 건 집 밖을 나서서 세상살이를 몸으로 접하는 것이다.
Even if you don't feel like it, try to accept invitations.
Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences.
Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven't seen in a while,
experience something new (or something old).
But don't get upset when you're not invited.
Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted.
The important thing is to leave the house from time to time.
Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.
🌿16. 말은 적게 하고, 남의 말을 잘 경청하는 사람이 되라.
듣지 않고 자기 얘기만 떠들어 대면 주위 사람들이 떠난다.
불평, 불만, 비판의 말이 아니라 남이 듣기 좋은 대화의 소재를 찾아라.
Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more.
Some people go on and on about the past,
not caring if their listeners are really interested.
That's a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you.
Listen first and answer questions,
but don't go off into long stories unless asked to.
Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain
or criticize too much unless you really need to.
Try to accept situations as they are.
Everyone is going through the same things,
and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints.
Always find some good things to say as well.